Thursday, June 23, 2011

Purity- preserving your child's innocence!

We would like to dedicated the next several posts to talk about the subject of purity as it relates to our children. Having said that, the first point we must make is this: in everything that you try to teach your children, you have to lead by example! It should be real obvious that if your telling your child to stay pure but they see you not living up to that standard, what do you think their going to believe? In the end no matter what we say our actions speak volumes above our words! You might think this is to great of a sacrifice, "how can I live without my girlfriend?", "how can I go without watching that movie?", "I just want to get one drink at my favorite bar", these are questions that might be rolling around in your mind, let me ask you a question: is there any sacrifice that's not worth it for your children? Your kids see all these things and make mental notes! We are going to tackle many different aspects of purity, but today we want to focus on the physical aspect of purity. First, and foremost, you have to teach your children about abstinence. Many people nowadays believe that your children can't stay pure until marriage, but that's a false assumption. You have to do everything you can to keep them away from things that will influence them towards impurity. What kind of shows do they watch on TV? The shows nowadays make it seem like physical impurity is a part of everyday life and it's really not. If your read this and think were just full of it, have you given up? If you have older children, did you stop being a parent once your kids turned 18? Keep your children away from those misleading, deceptive shows, but also from misleading, deceptive friends! Do they hang out with that one kid that knows a little to much for their age? What do you think their going to talk to your kid about? Just because their parent has given up or has lost control, doesn't mean you have to, stand up for what's right! If you will allow your kids or will allow to date, don't let them be put into situations where temptation might overwhelm them! You might have to do things a little unconventional and have "dates" at your house in the backyard (lol), you might have to send a younger brother or sister on their "date". It's funny in talking and writing about this how some of these things seem like their from outer space but as near as 30 years ago, this was the norm. How far has our society fallen to the waste side! Teach your children about that boy or girl that will try and push them to do something that they don't want to do. Teach them in that situation no matter what to always say NO! Teach them to run from that person and take them out of their life! Two thoughts we want to leave with you.
1. Tell (and mean it) your children that not matter what, they can talk to you about anything. Tell them that even it's something you won't like, you want them to be able to talk to you. You have to be their "safe zone", and when they talk to you, don't explode, just listen, love (by hugging and kissing, and listening), and if you have to discipline, do it the next day when you can explain to them that you appreciated them talking to you but there are consequences for their actions (and once you've cooled off).
2. Teach them the "why" of what your telling them. When they were babies and you told then not to touch the stove, they did it anyway. If we would tell them not to touch the stove because if they do, they'll have to get their hand amputated, do you still think they would touch the stove? Now in telling them the "why" of what your teaching them, you have to make it age appropriate. You have to cater to the audience, there are things that certain ages aren't ready to learn yet. A wise man once said "when your children start asking you about something is when their ready to learn about it", so true!
We must educate, do everything we can to keep them safe, by preserving their innocence and in the process their purity. Teach them the "why" and you'll get the response that will make them smile from ear to ear when their standing at the altar looking into the eyes of the one they've been waiting for all their lives! THAT'S NOT A ROMANCE NOVEL, IT'S THE REALITY OF THOSE THAT STAY PURE!!!!

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