Absentee Father



Will and Chaka

This is part four and the last post on our series about absentee parents. I don't know about you, but I've definitely grown and learned quite a few lessons so far. The key being to always be there for your kids NO MATTER WHAT! This last post is brought to you by Chaka, he is a married (7 years of marriage) father of a 9 year old girl, a 4 year old girl, and a 3 year old boy. This is his message: "When I was a kid growing up I never had my father in my life and to this day I have never seen and do not know nothing about him as an individual, role model, confidant or someone to emulate. So you can guess how my childhood went. My mother raised me and my two brothers and sister by herself and welfare checks and food stamps were how we made it through. I am now a 38yr. old father of three children from one woman that I married 7 years ago and I had no clue on how to be a father so man I stressed out and struggled when we had our first child  . Diaper changing was easy, it was the emotional stages of our daughter that threw me off and then came #2 she commanded our attention and I did not divide myself the right way and then 18 months later my little soldier came out and so I focused on him to make him right and in turn neglected our oldest because she was rebelling by having problems in school. Parenting is not easy just imagine trying it with no pre-guidance or instruction from my father then go try to become one!!  What I am saying is this, how can I be any type of father to my children when I have never had one and have so much bitter animosity towards a man I do not know and then turn around and be a good father to my own three by going " on the fly" Other than by the grace of GOD I would not of made it." Brought to you by Chaka